We all have theses moments where you’re confronted with a situation that absolutely makes you shake with anger or attitude. Situations where you jump before thinking about the words your mind is urging you to say. Conflicts and arguments that we just burst into fury and frustration.
I had a situation just recently like this and my anger and anxiety got the best of me and my mouth. Looking back at what I did and said, I sat in with disbelief with myself. I said things that I felt were true but said it in a demeaning way and didn’t hear what was being told to me because I was in my head and let anger get in the way of logic and understanding.
To answer before listening is foolish and shameful
What is funny is I have this verse highlighted, underlined, bracketed, and sticky noted and still didn’t practice it very well. Yeah I know not very wise. I take this verse as don’t jump to conclusions because its liable to make you speak with judgment and pride. When we jump to conclusions is when we make *excuse my language* asses out of you and me (ass-u-me)
Your tongue has the power of life and death. Those who love to talk will eat the fruit of their words
Needless to say that you will experience the backlash of the words you speak. So if you use wise words with understanding you will get further than what I did with harsh words because of anger. An example of this I made to my 8-year-old because he said something that hurt my husband. I had him get a tube of travel tooth paste and had him squeeze it out into a cardboard box. Then I told him to put it all back into the tube. He looked at the tube, then to me, then back and the tube.
“That is impossible mom”
Our words and actions cannot be taken back as quickly as when we make them. Often words and action can hurt even when we mean them in the best of ways. We cause messes when we just act and speak without thinking about it.
A person with a bad temper stirs up conflict. But a person who is patient calms things down
A gentle answer turns anger way. But mean word stirs up anger
It’s hard to just breathe and calm anger down when you feel it swelling inside. Even if you’re in the wrong but feel you’re in the right, words can hurt and being angry doesn’t help your case or the situation you face. Remaining silent isn’t my best feature and I am working on that. It is personally hard for me to just keep quiet when I like to “share” my opinion in lesser of terms.
Anyone who is patient has a great understanding. But anyone who gets angry quickly shows how foolish they are
Foolishness is a short fuse, patience and understanding are long fuses that don’t get ignited by anger and situations confront to you. We all experience times were we have a short fuse and are at wit’s end but need to have a longer fuse. It is challenging to practice and long fuse? Yes
Is it worth it in the end to practice a long fuse? Yes
Everyone should be quick to listen. But they should be slow to speak. They should be slow to get angry. Human anger doesn’t produce the holy life God wants
Even in the New Testament we are reminded to answer without anger, James was writing a letter to the 12 tribes scattered among nations (as far as my understandings get from that, please correct me if I am wrong). He was explaining what we should do to be godly people and what we shouldn’t do.
So next time you’re in an argument it’s
Better to say nothing at all than something you will regret
If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all
When you are confronted with a situation or argument before answering take a moment to remember these. If you have to don’t approach the situation until you have collected yourself and have taken the time to think about what you will say without sounding angry. This can be hard if someone wants an answer right then but remember even then take your time even if they are impatient. There are many scriptures one can reference and revert to. These are just a select few I decided to use and have way more to reference.
What is one verse that reminds you to be calm?