When I met my husband it was nothing as glorious as you see in the movies, but there something kind of about pretty funny happened on how we met.
I was about nineteen years old and had a three year old son due to an unexpected (teenage) pregnancy at sixteen. I just had gotten out of a bad relationship with a manipulative, controlling, and cheating guy. I was lost and confused because this was about the fourth time I’ve have ever been cheated on. I felt hopeless, worthless, and abandoned.
At this time I didn’t have a real good relationship with my family or God. However both were always family and by my side even though they had their doubts about me and disappointing moments I put myself in.
Well a friend of mine convinced me I just need to find a good man and go on a dating website, I won’t name which one I used but I will say it was nothing but a hook up site. Well let’s skip a few weeks ahead from of creepy and inappropriate messages, to the day I was about to delete my account. I had almost given up because I was tired of the inappropriate messages and content.
I then got a message from this guy, in the photo above, (who is now my husband) introducing himself in a polite manner and asking a bunch of questions. They weren’t inappropriate or demeaning, but they were real questions. Wanting to get to know me not anything else. I was shocked!
I was also curious so I answered all the questions and asked a few of my own. Turned out this guy had a lot in common with me and I was intrigued with that. So we started talking more and finally decided to met up before I had to go to work.
When we met up it was odd at first, I didn’t know what to say or talk about, we started walking around a public park. As we started to talk back and forth, flirting, and having a good time I felt quite comfortable. Well before I had to leave I asked him one question that was boggling my mind, why did he message me? He replied with; I seemed real and down to earth I was able to answer normal questions not ask inappropriate ones, and because I had admired him….
Now let me back track a minute what admired him means! Every time you logged into this date site it gave you an option to play this game called Admire Them. The game gave you 4-6 profiles to admire, in which you would pick the person you like the most from what little information they give you and send them an admire. When the person you admired got it, it would show up on their end as a “guess who admired you” by putting 4-6 profiles side by side. Making you guess who sent them the admire. If you got it wrong you would never know who sent you if you got it right it gave you a chance to message them. I found this game stupid, pointless, and never played it. Not once!
So back to the point where I left off, when he said that I admired him I laughed. He looked at me quite funny but he was serious. He showed me the notification that he guessed the admirer right, it was me. I had to do a double take and showed him that I didn’t send the admire at all. However he still thinks I did send it but I now believe God had something to do with the sent admirer.
First because I don’t really believe in fate. God knows my past, my present, and my future. I know that what ever happens it is apart of his plan or Satan’s plan. I can only trust that it is from God.
Second God knew my suffering and the emotional pain I felt for so many years. The pain I didn’t explain to my family because I felt as if they would care. Anxiety hit me most then. I had felt unwanted since the age of sixteen because of a number of reasons, one of which was because I got pregnant (just so you know I don’t blame my son for anything and tried to always be there for him).
Third is I believe God gave me him because he needed me too. He isn’t a believer and that’s OK why because God knew he needed me to help him. He didn’t have the best of a past and he too was looking for something like me. God gave me a wonderful man and father and I couldn’t be happier to have found my match because God decided to play match-maker.
To this day we have three beautiful children, two fur babies, and still love each other even when it is hard to like each other sometimes. So ladies don’t give up hope, God will set you up just trust in him to do so! He will give you the man you belong with in time he sees fit.